More than a week has passed since my former band mates, Jeff, Willie, Joe, (Andy Couldn't make it), and I attended the funeral of an old friend who passed away just slightly more than a year after he retired. In the words of his son-in-law, he was planning to launch into a new phase of his life as a training consultant. As the saying goes, "man proposes, God disposes," Richard did not get to see his plan materialize.
Richard's passing on triggered my memories to flash-back on the things we did together when we were young and how he once saved my life from a spear which was heading for my chest. He used his palm to block the spear and suffered several stitches at the Kuala Lumpur General Hospital. He was the one who acted as our band, Apaches', no-pay manager. All he got was fun and fellowship together with a group of pop music lovers. We were quite wild and naughty and did things that we won't allow our children to do. Those were fun days where friendship was just pure friendship. We played together, ate together, fought together, slept together and performed together. He was like a big brother to us.
Richard's passing on reminds us again that our day will come and no amount of wealth or power can change that. All that we can do is to stay as healthy as possible, do all that we have passion for and enjoy the involvement, love the people we love and spend more time together, and serve our fellow human whenever possible. It is said that those among us who are truly happy are those who serve others. I once asked a Rinpoche the purpose of life of humans and his answer was "serve other living beings."
As we advance in age, we must spend more time with the people we love and extend our love to more people that surround us. People 1st always.
I received a beautiful powerpoint slide show on "What Matters" in my email and I have forwarded it to many of my friends to share it with them. It is really beautiful and reflected my thoughts of the last one week of reflection on the fragility of life.
I reproduce my the content of my email for my readers' information and hopefully will inspire you to do spend more time with your loved ones. And.... together, extend your love to more people.
"Hi Brothers, sisters and friends,
Just attended an old friend's funeral a week ago and memories flashed back on the things we did together.
How this friend, Richard Quee, actually saved my life once! How we missed making time for each other and barely a year or so into his retirement, he is gone.
No time for us to catch up on old times and thank each other for the simple but wonderful times together.
May God bless his soul as he rests in peace.
As for us who are still around, remember, People 1st. Let's hold friendship as an end and not a means; and that true friendship exists not on account of the service performed by one to another, but that true friendship demands nothing but accepted friendship in the spirit in which it is given. Let's keep in touch as often as we can.
Warmest regards.
Sam
If any of my readers are interested to receive a copy of "What Matters", please send in your request and I shall be delighted to forward a copy to you. God bless.
